Family Law Mediation: An Alternative Dispute Resolution Option for Virginia Families

Written by: Kate Beurmann-O’Neill

Family law matters often involve deeply personal issues, heightened emotions, and long-term implications for parents and children alike. While court proceedings are sometimes necessary, many individuals are interested in alternative dispute resolution options that may allow for greater flexibility and reduced conflict.

Our firm is pleased to announce the addition of family law mediation services as part of our expanding family law practice. Mediation is one of several dispute resolution tools available to families navigating divorce, custody, and related issues in Virginia.

What Is Mediation?

Mediation is a voluntary and confidential process in which a neutral third party—the mediator—assists participants in discussing disputed issues and exploring possible resolutions. The mediator does not represent either party, does not take sides, and does not make decisions for the participants.

Instead, the mediator facilitates communication, helps identify issues and interests, and supports the parties in working toward agreements they believe are appropriate for their circumstances.

Mediation in Family Law Matters

In the family law context, mediation may be used to address issues such as:

• Divorce and separation terms
• Custody and parenting schedules
• Child support and spousal support discussions
• Property and financial matters
• Modifications of existing agreements

Mediation is not appropriate for every situation, and participation is voluntary. Whether mediation is a suitable option depends on the facts of each case, including the ability of both parties to participate safely and in good faith.

Our Mediation Services

Kate Beurmann-O’Neill, the leader of our Divorce and Family Law Practice, has completed 40 hours of Mediation and Interest-Based Negotiation Training, allowing her to serve as a mediator in family law matters in Virginia. This training focuses on mediation ethics, neutrality, informed consent, and effective communication skills.

When acting as a mediator:

• The mediator does not represent either party
• The mediator does not provide legal advice
• No attorney–client relationship is formed with either participant
• Participants are encouraged to seek independent legal counsel before, during, or after mediation

Mediation services may be provided for matters involving:

• Parties who are not represented by attorneys
• Situations in which one or both parties have independent legal counsel

In all cases, the mediator’s role remains neutral and facilitative.

Potential Benefits of Mediation

While mediation does not guarantee any particular outcome, some individuals choose mediation because it may offer:

• A structured environment for discussing disputed issues
• Greater participation in shaping proposed agreements
• Privacy compared to court proceedings
• Flexibility in scheduling and pacing discussions

Any agreement reached through mediation is voluntary and typically subject to review by independent counsel before being finalized or submitted to a court.

Mediation and Parenting Arrangements

Parents sometimes use mediation to discuss custody and parenting arrangements in a non-adversarial setting. Mediation may help parents communicate more effectively and consider practical solutions tailored to their family’s needs. As with all mediation matters, the mediator does not determine custody or make recommendations, and any proposed agreement must comply with Virginia law and be approved by the court if required.

A Measured Expansion of Family Law Services

As a full-service law firm, we recognize that no single approach fits every family. By offering mediation services—and pursuing additional training in collaborative practice—we aim to provide clients with access to multiple pathways for addressing family law disputes, consistent with Virginia law and professional ethics.

Learn More About Mediation

If you are interested in learning more about family law mediation, we invite you to contact our office for general information about the process. An initial discussion can help determine whether mediation may be an appropriate option for your situation.

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If you have any questions, please call Kate Beurmann-O’Neill at 703-369-4738 or info@vfnlaw.com.

This blog post is not intended to provide legal advice or substitute for the advice of legal counsel with respect to specific facts and situations. See disclaimer